A fool and his folly... Proverbs 26:4-5

The past three months of my life have been a bit of a whirl wind, to say the least.  In a matter of just a few days, the Lord directed me to leave family, friends, and basically everything behind in Arkansas and temporarily relocate to California.  God’s grace has been absolutely amazing…hands down…because this has been an extremely trying transition!!

 

I’ll have to be honest with you, I wasn’t sure as to the “why” I was coming out here until about 4-5 weeks into my residency here in California.  Now that I’ve been here for two days shy of two months, I have a much better idea of the “why.”  I wouldn’t say that I fully know all the reasons because God always tends to reveal some in “the during” and some in “the after.”  It always amazes me how He always works things out for my good.  I trust Him.  I trust Him, fully.

 

Yesterday, I was thinking about the scripture in Proverbs.  4 “Do not answer a fool according to his folly, lest you also be like him.  5 Answer a fool according to his folly lest he be wise in his own eyes.  Proverbs 26:4  As I was thinking about some of the crazy things that have happened since I left Arkansas, this scripture came to mind.  I looked it up, read it and pondered it throughout the day.  This morning, much to my surprise, it was in my daily Bible reading.  I was overjoyed, praising God for the way He does things and laughing because of the joy it brought me!

 

Early on in my arrival, a young woman began challenging my boundaries.  I’m sure she didn’t realize that she was crossing boundaries that she shouldn’t.  It’s ok.  I could see that she doesn’t have a good sense of boundaries for herself.  For the most part, I know and understand how to handle these situations…only because of God’s leading and guiding and not because of anything within me.  I rely on God’s help to know what to do and when to do it.  I once was the young woman who had no sense of good boundaries.  I have allowed God to teach me.  Therefore, I now am ultra respectful of the boundaries of others and also keep safe boundaries for myself.

 

Anyway, this person crossed a boundary with me.  I didn’t say anything to her.  I let it go, forgave her and prayed about it.  Soon thereafter, she did it again, but in a different way.  This time, I asked her a question where she had to answer either “yes” or “no” to her foolishness.  Well, she didn’t like this at all.  She was immediately offended and then went around spouting off about what had taken place between the two of us.  Never mind the fact that she was out of line in the first place.

 

This is exactly what the proverb is talking about.  It seems that it contradicts itself, but really it doesn’t.  You see, when dealing with foolishness of others, you have to know when to speak and when not to speak, and ultimately, either way, they won’t “get it.”  When you don’t speak, said person believes they are wise in their own eyes.  When you do speak, they usually get offended and show their immaturity.  When dealing with a person like this, you cannot win.  It truly is best to simply walk away and just keep the peace when coming in contact with them.

 

This person from that moment on did everything she could to get into “my world.”  It’s not that I was unfriendly or mean.  I was simply keeping safe, healthy boundaries for myself.  This wasn’t my “first rodeo,” so the saying goes.  The thing is, even though this person stirred up all of strife and even tried to “teach me” where she believes I’m in error, she has no idea that she is the one in error.  She has chosen to be “wise in her own eyes.”  I don’t say that arrogantly or as though I am wise in my own eyes at all.  I say it extremely humbly.  I have been patient to allow the Lord to show me exactly what He wanted me to learn from the situation without spouting off and gossiping to others about the situation.

 

Basically, the Proverb says that you cannot win with a fool.  You cannot answer a fool who is “wise in their own eyes.”  You must be cautious and use wisdom if you choose to answer what the Bible refers to as a fool.

 

The truth of the matter is, this person is loved by God as much as you and I are.  He wants a better way for this person as much as He wants a better way for you and me.

 

If and when we find ourselves in a situation like this, we must remember that even though someone is crossing boundaries and being disrespectful, we must take the high road, which I did, in this case.  Thank You, Jesus…who enabled me to do so!!  More often than not, we must remain silent, which I also did.  God will fight these battles for us when we allow Him to do so.  Exodus 14:14  Silence doesn’t mean we don’t understand a situation.  Silence doesn’t necessarily mean we don’t have anything to say, either.  For me in this particular situation as a leader, I wasn’t in a position as a leader who had authority to confront and correct, but rather a follower.  I knew my boundaries and chose to keep them.  It wasn’t my place to correct this person, so I forgave and let it go, but, I kept safe boundaries for myself with this person from that point on.  Wisdom was available, accessed and used in this situation.  If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God who will give it without reproach.  James 1:5  I rely on this scripture  A LOT!!  God has never failed me.  If I fail to use wisdom in a situation, it’s not because of God, but rather because I didn’t ask for, access, or use it.  Wisdom is always there for us because God is always there for us with an infinite supply of wisdom.  We must choose it.  We must also pray for the person who is the offender.  The Bible says to love your neighbor and pray for your enemies.  Mark 12:30-31, Matthew 5:43-48

 

In this case, this person has no idea of their folly.  That’s ok.  It’s currently where she is in her walk.  If she continues with the Lord and allows Him to do so, He will teach her a better way in time … like he has done and continues to do with me because that's what I choose with all my heart.

 

Bottom line … be cautious when dealing with what the Bible refers to as fools.  Don’t fall into their trap.  Use wisdom that God provides.  Know who you are in Christ.  When you know who you are in Him, you don’t have to try to win people over to your side because you know that the only opinion that matters is God’s opinion of you.  ~ Selah

Knowledge For The Spiritual Man...

 Back in the day when Jesus still walked the earth before His death and resurrection, the Pharisees, more often than not, had issue with Him.  They would do anything they could to attempt to “trip Him up,” but they never could.  He was, is and will always be perfect.  The thing about the Pharisees is that they were highly educated men.  They knew the scriptures…but yet…they couldn’t even recognize the Son of God, the One the scriptures foretold.  At one point, Jesus even called them “white washed tombs”…meaning they sure did look good on the outside, but on the inside, they were rotten and disgusting. See Matthew 23:27

Today, my concern in these amazing times of great knowledge is that knowledge, both outside and inside the church, is clouding the vision of our Great and Amazing God.

I have had amazing conversations with folks who have extensive knowledge of the Bible as well as many other books that contribute to the knowledge of the Bible, but yet in their own way, doubt some capabilities of the Holy Spirit… as if the Creator of all things is somehow unable to do certain miracles!!  Now, understand me clearly here…I don’t say this to try to hurt anyone or point fingers at anyone.  I say it because it’s been a subject that’s been on my heart and mind for many, many years.  And…lately it seems that much of the persecution that I’m witnessing is coming not only from outside the Church, but much of it is coming from inside the Church…from other Christ Followers.  I refuse to mention any names in this writing.  This is not about calling folks out on what they do or don’t believe.  After all, God gave us each a measure of faith.  See Romans 12:3  It’s God who removes the veil from our eyes so that we can see Him more clearly.  See 2 Corinthians 3:1-18   It’s God who gives us the knowledge…but how are we using it?  Are we using it to tear each other down, or build each other up?  Are we allowing knowledge itself to be the box that keeps the Holy Spirit from working effectively?  After all, Jesus himself said that He could not do miracles in some places due to the lack of belief.  See Matthew 13:53-58 This is not the picture of the spotless bride that Jesus is coming back for!!  In fact, often times the vision I see when others doubt the authenticity of another Christian, is that of the Pharisees calling Jesus blasphemous.  Again,… Jesus likened the Pharisees and scribes to white washed tombs!! 

When are we going to learn to accept each other for who God created each of us to be as Followers of Christ.  We’re not in competition here, though some might argue that fact.  Even the twelve disciples argued over who would be the greatest. See Luke 9:46  Maybe we should learn from their mistakes instead of trying to be the best or having the most knowledge, or worrying about whose church is too small or too large, too loud, not loud enough, traditional music vs non-traditional music or vice versa…etc.  The arguments seem endless!!  Stop trying to stop someone from being all God made them to be simply because you don’t believe it for that person!! Maybe we should simply work together, accepting the fact that not everyone is going to have the same doctrinal beliefs as Christ Followers.  Maybe we should strive for excellence…both at individual and corporate levels.

Where I am unable to reach a lost soul, you can.  And, where we are unable to reach one…someone else is able to reach them.  This is possible only with the workings of the Holy Spirit through us.  It’s us making ourselves available for the God of all Creation to work through us!!  It’s. Not. About. Us.

Let’s stop letting pride, knowledge, doctrinal beliefs…or whatever, get in the way of being true Christ Followers.  We can know the Bible inside and out, but if we don’t allow the Author to work through us to reach the lost, sadly, we are ineffective as Followers of Christ.

For years, my saying has been “don’t keep God in a box.”  And, I must admit that in my walk, from time to time, even when against having borders for God, I still manage to do just what I don’t want to do…have a border here or there.  The beautiful thing is that God knows that I don’t want Him in a box, but He also knows my imperfections…better than I know them myself.  I want to see Him for EVERYTHING He is and ever will be.  So, when this happens, He ever so gently shows me the error of my way.  I encourage you to do the same.  Let your boundaries go!!

Don’t let your head full of wonderful knowledge…that is God given by the way… become the box that keeps God from doing all that He’s capable of doing… like those in Nazareth who believed they knew Jesus so well that they believed Him incapable of doing miracles.  Don’t be that guy!!  Seek knowledge…but more importantly…seek the Giver of that knowledge.